mothers and sons

  • “Top of the World Ma! Top of the World!” That’s what I hear in my head whenever someone mentions “Mother’s Day.” James Cagney standing tall atop that fiery oil tank — White Heat – Triumphant despite the facts – Boom! The other thing that comes to mind is that “Mother’s song.” The one that goes,

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  • Trust

    It is a horrible feeling not being able to trust your mother. Recently, I have had to draw some pretty thick and deep lines in the sand when it comes to my mother. It has not been easy. I know she did not mean to do it maliciously. I know she thought she was doing

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  • Drawing Lines in the Sand

    I have drawn lines in the sand with my family. I have had to set boundaries. It was difficult at first. It started with my father and grandmother. I had to get them to call before “dropping by.” I also had to get them to agree not to drop by so often. It hasn’t been

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  • Just Like Momma Used To

    I joke that my dad was the typical stony Chinese dad. I joke that the only time he spoke to me was to tell me that I was blocking the TV. My dad is a nice man. In hindsight, while he was the one that gave me most of my spankings, it was usually at

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