Fatherhood
Opinions on parenting.
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The one thing I was insistent about when my eldest was two was that there be no guns. Unlike the other kids, even water guns and the kind you make extending your thumb and pointing your finger were not allowed. My son is now five and guns have made their way into his play. He…
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I want my children to learn Chinese because: I’m Chinese. It is important to me that my children retain a cultural connection. I have always regretted that I am illiterate in my parent’s language. It was always a given that my children would learn Chinese. My wife and I did not question it. The dilemma…
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Recently, my wife and I argued over whether or not to throw our son a birthday party. She wanted a large party with all of his classmates. I wanted something more intimate with just the nuclear family. This year, our son’s birthday fell at an opportune time. It was Spider-Man week in New York City,…
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What will I tell my sons when they ask how my wife and I named them? Will they ask? My sister was named after a race horse. My father says he named her after a race horse that won on the day or some time during the week of her birth. I was named because…
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It is a horrible feeling not being able to trust your mother. Recently, I have had to draw some pretty thick and deep lines in the sand when it comes to my mother. It has not been easy. I know she did not mean to do it maliciously. I know she thought she was doing…
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I have drawn lines in the sand with my family. I have had to set boundaries. It was difficult at first. It started with my father and grandmother. I had to get them to call before “dropping by.” I also had to get them to agree not to drop by so often. It hasn’t been…
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Are you an animal lover? Do you have pets? The Chinese aren’t big on the pets-n-baby scenario. I like to tell friends and co-workers what some of the members in my wife’s and my extended family said to us when we announced we were going to have a baby. One of the comments was (loosely…
Vincent Young 